White men prefer Donald Trump to Hillary Clinton at a rate of almost 2-1. The number is even higher among white men without college degrees.
I’m starting #BrosAgainstTrump to change that stat and promote a different way to address white male fragility.
White men are terrified– our primacy in the world is threatened by globalization and multiculturalism. It’s no longer enough to be born white and male (though it’s still a huge fucking advantage). White men are the only demographic in America with a rising death rate. They’re killing themselves with guns and drugs.
Self-destruction is inward facing anger. There’s also a lot of outward facing anger. You’d have to be living in a cave to miss it. Videos from Trump rallies show hateful rhetoric that blames others without much self-examination. As Charles Blow so eloquently put it in the New York Times recently: “Trump is an unfiltered primal scream of the fragility and fear consuming white male America.”
These guys – white men like me – they were never taught how to express frustration. Historically, we’ve belittled boys for being sensitive and encouraged girls to demure, as President Obama wrote about in Glamour this week. Besides, anger and hate are a lot easier to express than fear or self-doubt.
Donald Trump gets that. Donald Trump exploits that.
#BrosAgainstTrump is about getting out scores of photos of white men who reject Trump. It’s about embracing a different definition of masculinity. Not anger. Not self-involved bro-ness. Not misogyny. Instead: a willingness to question, to embrace empathy, and to confidently cede power to other groups.
Our ancestors came to America seeking equality, freedom from oppression, and the chance to join a burgeoning middle class. Our grandparents fought for these values in huge global conflicts. We should celebrate those values when we see them in people who don’t look like us. That’s American.
Let’s have a conversation about pain and fear. The pain and fear felt for centuries by others, that’s now entering the white male psyche. Let’s ask girlfriends and wives and mothers and sisters what it’s like to move through the world as a woman instead of assuming we know. Let’s talk about what racism looks and feels like in our everyday world. But fist let’s ensure Trump doesn’t become our President.
If you're a white dude who is ready to use your privilege to build a better America, post a picture with #BrosAgainstTrump.